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Nov 12 2017

Futures Without Violence

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Domestic Violence, Futures Without Violence, Victim's Advocate

Being an author that discusses adverse childhood experiences, and domestic violence statistics quite often, I thought I would share with you one of the emails I received a few days ago.

Dear Casey,

The recent avalanche of disclosures of sexual harassment and assault
reveals what many of us have experienced or known: workplace sexual
harassment and sexual assault are pervasive in today’s
workplaces and often goes unreported.

In addition to the National Resource Center’s newly revamped
Workplaces Respond to Domestic and Sexual Violence website, we wanted
to share with you some brand new resources we have created: https://www.workplacesrespond.org/

* The Top 10 Things Employers Can Do Right Now to Address
Sexual Harassment in the Workplace

https://medium.com/@FuturesWithoutViolence/the-top-10-things-employers-can-do-right-now-to-address-sexual-harassment-in-the-workplace-a02b33f87ffe

* In Case You Missed It, We’re Complicit: Sexual
Harassment in the Workplace

In Case You Missed It, We’re Complicit: Sexual Harassment in the Workplace

* From #MeToo to #HowIWillChange, Men Can Prevent Abuse

https://www.futureswithoutviolence.org/men-workplace-sexual-harassment/

* The Top 10 Things Unions Can Do Right Now to Address
Sexual Harassment in the Workplace

https://medium.com/@FuturesWithoutViolence/top-10-things-unions-can-do-right-now-to-address-sexual-harassment-in-the-workplace-8a3904818959

* Facebook Live discussion: How Can We End Workplace Sexual
Harassment and Violence?

https://www.facebook.com/FuturesWithoutViolence/videos/vb.164427643612907/1496609660394692/?type=2&theater

We can all be part of the solution. Please join us.

Sincerely,

Futures Without Violence

I hope you found these resources helpful, and please share because “Together We Can Make a Difference.”

Hugs

Casey

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Nov 05 2017

A Fun Time At Nutmeg TV

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CCADV, Domestic Violence

by Casey Morley

I met Christine at a friends house about two years ago, she is always finding ways to make a difference in peoples lives. She now has a show on Nutmeg TV in Farmington, Connecticut. http://nutmegtv.org/ where anyone can create their own show. It is free and they make it fun.

Nutmeg Public Access Television, Inc. is the leading regional non-profit PEG Access TV station in CT.serving 80,000 homes. They offer 24 hour a day programming on three channels and are a two time Telly Award Winner.

Christine received one of my newsletters about the I Choose Program http://www.ctcadv.org/projects-initiatives/ichoose/ after watching the I Choose video she reached out to me. Christine shared she was excited I agreed to be a guest for her show.

On September 27, 2017 I would say had to be one of the hottest, most humid day of the summer. My concern would normally be, “I hope this goes well” but on this day my thoughts were ” Oh! my what will my hair look like by the time I get into the studio,” A concern for most stylists, for those who only know me as an author, yes I also am a owner/operator at my salon Casey’s Image Consultants. To check out more about the salon, or to add your name for my quarterly newsletter please visit http://caseymorley.com/betrayal-was-engulfing-me/

If you would like to watch the fun Christine and I had together please visit http://nutmegtv.org/video-on-demand/single/?id=35031

Tags: CCADV, Kidz Korner, Nutmeg TV

Oct 30 2017

Walk To End The Silence, Middletown, Conn.!!!

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CCADV, Domestic Violence

by Casey Morley

On October 21, 2017 we had yet another beautiful day and an amazing turn out of people. All ages from 3 to 83 showed up to support Middletown Police Department http://www.cityofmiddletown.com/Police and New Horizons Domestic Violence Services.https://www.newhorizonsdv.com/about_us

The Walk To End The Silence was originated in memory of baby Aaden who tragically lost his life at the hands of his abuser, and for ALL!!! victims who endure any form of abuse and domestic violence. Captains, Mayor, Executive Directors, Doctors and myself came to speak and share the alarming statistics of this national epidemic that is going on all around us.

Family violence is a crime, physical, emotional, and sexual abuse are only a few types of abuse. There are actually 10 forms of abuse. Neglect being the most common of emotional abuse. 70% are neglected.

1 in 3 women and 1 in 4 men will be a victim of domestic violence in her/his lifetime.
3 to 4 million women are beaten in their home each year.
more than 3 women are murdered each day.

Intimate partner violence occurs among all races, religions, and socioeconomic classes.

Please consider joining us next year to help raise awareness, and/or become a sponsor.’

Hugs Casey

To learn where a domestic violence shelter is nearby please visit CCADV http://www.ctcadv.org/

Tags: abuse, domestic violence, Trauma, victims

Oct 29 2017

Another Amazing Church Journey!!!

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Domestic Violence

by Casey Morley

I spend much of my time visiting local churches to connect with some of the people. I feel four or five visits before I am there for a speaking event allows me to have brief conversations with many to help them understand what I am all about.

Child abuse and domestic violence statistics are ALARMING!!! I feel the more I can connect with people and share what I have learned about adverse childhood experience’s from my own childhood and from what I learn from my research.

On September 17th I had the privilege to spend some time at First Lutheran Church http://www.firstlutheransouthington.org/ I was deeply touched by the deep attention of the guest, the tears, the confessions and all the hugs. Almost at every event I hear “You just told my story” After hearing these words we immediately are connected and a amazing hug follows.

I always leave a speaking event with a grateful heart, and believe I taught something and made a difference in some ones life. I hope my vulnerability and authentic self will give someone in the room the courage to begin their own journey of Crawling Out.

Hugs

Casey

Tags: abuse, adverse childhood experiences, Churches, First Lutheran Church

Oct 21 2017

State Representative William A. Petite, Jr Helping Victims

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Domestic Violence

by Casey Morley

It being domestic violence awareness month I would love to share with you this article about our State Representative William A. Petite, Jr .https://www.facebook.com/search/top/?q=state%20representative%20william%20a.%20petit%20jr.

State Representative William A. Petit, Jr. wrote on October 16 at 1:56pm
During my first term as a State Representative, I have worked to support efforts to help victims of crime and domestic violence. Domestic violence unravels the fabric of our society and is horribly damaging.
October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. During this month, in particular, it’s important for all of us to recommit ourselves to ending domestic violence and make sure this social malady is eradicated forever.

http://www.cthousegop.com/petit/2017/10/16/op-ed-october-domestic-violence-awareness-month/

Please remember each and everyone of us can research it, talk about it, teach your young, volunteer and or pledge.

“Together we can make a difference,”

Hugs Casey

Tags: domestic violence, Family Violence, Jr., State Rep. William A. Petite

Sep 27 2017

Attorney Recommends My Book!

Categories:

Domestic Violence

by Casey Morley

I have been very busy visiting many churches in the area, because I like to meet a dozen or so new friends just before it is my date to go speak at their church. A month or so ago I met Attorney Scott Garver. Actually, it was at the part we say peace be with you, and Scott said “your Casey aren’t you” my response ” how do you know that” I’m thinking since this is my first visit to First Congregational Church http://www.fccsouthington.org Scott’s reply “well your face is all!! over town.” Thus, a new friendship has begun. Please read what Attorney Scott had to say after reading Crawling Out.

Crawling Out
September 25, 2017 by Scott Garver Leave a Comment
by Scott Garver, attorney at law

If a child is abused from an early age, how is he or she ever to become aware that the world they live in is not the way it should be? How is a child supposed to know what behavior is not acceptable to the larger society?
Emotional and physical abuse is bad enough, but it is often compounded with sexual abuse by a family member or friend. Sex is confusing for any adolescent, but the damage is enormous when the abuser is a person in a position of authority.
As a family and criminal lawyer I too often have seen cases like this. The child-victim grows up to become an adult with huge unresolved emotional and psychological issues. Often this results in alcoholism and drug abuse. The adult-victim falls into all sort of legal trouble: criminal behavior, failed marriages, unemployment and bankruptcy. Worse, they have kids who are dysfunctional themselves and have school problems or wind up in Juvenile Court.
I have just finished reading a very inspiring book by a Connecticut author who fought her way out of the cycle of generation dysfunction abuse. By her own grit and determination she saved herself and her son.

Crawling Out is an autobiography by Casey Morley. She spend 25 years coping with and crawling out of family abuse, Her book chronicles some of this abuse and follows her as she struggles to overcome the negative things she was taught about herself and shed the shame and guilt that were not hers to carry.

As a family lawyer and criminal lawyer I deal with some of these issues with my own clients or even opposing parties. Casey’s book raise my awareness and compassion for these victims. And as a professor at UConn in the Department of Human Development and Family Studies I recommend this book to my students in Family Law.

According to the Connecticut Coalition against Domestic Violence, 60% of emergency visits are due to domestic abuse and 15.5 million children are exposed to it annually http://www.ctcadv.org/ With better awareness we have the ability to end domestic violence and its ugly legacy to future generations.
Check out Casey’s website at http://www.crawlingout.net

To read more good stuff from Attorney Scott please visit http://scottgarverlaw.com/and over to the right click on “Good Stuff ”

Hugs Casey

Ps. I will be speaking at First Congregational Church in Southington, Ct. on Oct 25, 2017 @ 7:00pm.

Tags: Attorney Scott Garver, family law, victims

Aug 20 2017

Esta Soler: How to End Domestic Violence!!!

Categories:

Domestic Violence

by Casey Morley

I would like to share this video from an email I received from Futures Without Violence because I hope many will take the time to listen to Esta and her message. We will have better tomorrows.

Hugs Casey

Tags: domestic violence, Esta Soler, statistics

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Aug 12 2017

CCADV “I Choose” Campaign

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CCADV, Domestic Violence

by Karen

The CCADV Mission: Works to improve social conditions and lead, Connecticut’s response to domestic violence through policy, public awareness, technical assistance and training. (http://www.ctcadv.org).

When CCADV newsletter arrives, I am anxious to read what the coalition has been up to. I often take away new statistics and info to share at my speaking events. In this issue they covered State Policy updates, New Series of Campus Safety Trainings, Safe Futures, etc.

This September, once again I will be attending the Children’s Center Fall Symposium, a day filled with updated information, and great presenters. I am certainly interested in the presentation on how persistent fear and anxiety can affect young children’s learning behavior and health. Today I want to focus on their new Prevention Campaign “I Choose” they kicked off this past June.

“I Choose” is focusing on engaging boys, and men, to make positive life changes that don’t involve violence. With the right teachers, mentors and tools, boys can delete what they believe about violence being a choice, and rise above it. The important messages: “I choose respect”, “I choose not to normalize violence towards women” and “I choose to take a stand against domestic violence” are heard throughout. Please take a moment to watch this very quick video. Perhaps leave me a message on your thoughts. Thank you

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Aug 12 2017

Mayor Toni Harp/ WTNH 8

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by Casey Morley

I happened to catch a interview on WTNH 8 with Laura Hutchinson and Mayor Toni Harp. Many good things happening for New Haven, Conn. The one that caught my interest was the talk about a one-stop shopping resource center for families enduring some form of domestic violence.

I would like to share with you the letter I sent Mayor Toni Harp last week.

Dear Mayor Harp,

Hope this letter finds you in good spirits, and enjoying the beautiful summer we are having.

I saw your interview on WTNH 8 last week with Laura Hutchinson, you spoke of many good things happening for New Haven. Your preparedness guide for immigrant families, the new Chief of police Anthony Campbell, and the idea of the “Family Justice Center” being a “one stop shopping” source. When I heard you speak of that, I knew I wanted to reach out to you.
Mayor Harp, I am the author of Crawling Out, One Woman’s Journey to Break the Cycle of Abuse. I have been through 50 years of one form of abuse or another. Today, I am a domestic violence advocate, and have spoken at a few colleges, and at many local churches to make a difference.

I have enclosed a copy of my book as a gift to you, and would like to donate 15 books to the future family justice center. If you can see my book in the center as an avenue for the New Haven clients to find the strength and courage to begin their own journey of crawling out, I would be honored to be part of making a difference for those families.

It is my hope that victims of domestic violence learn there is a way out, there is a way to begin change, the way of their lives as they have tragically known them do not have to go on forever. It is our birthright to live in a safe and peaceful environment with love and joy in our hearts. Nothing is more torturous than having indignity heaped upon us.

Thank you so much for taking the time to read this letter. If you need additional information, I can be reached at my work #860-628-8857. I look forward to hearing from you because I know “Together We Can Make a Difference.”

Best to you,

Casey Morley

P.S. To learn more about me please visit www.caseymorley.com www.crawlingout.net I can only hope every town and city in Connecticut will eventually have a one stop shopping resource center for families suffering from some form of abuse.

Hugs,

Casey

Please share your thoughts on this idea.

Tags: Domestic Violence resource Center, Mayor Toni Harp, WTNH 8

Jul 16 2017

Theta Brainwave and Childhood Trauma

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Uncategorized

by Casey Morley

I hope to see you thereI have been very busy this past month with one webinar after another. Most of them dealing with an authors life, some for fun, like creative visualization. I have notes everywhere, to be rewritten, and organized into folders that match similar info.

I found myself listening to a woman one day about Theta brainwaves. Unfortunately on my scribbled notes on little pieces of paper I did not write who she was. More important is what she had to say. From birth to six years old the brain is in Theta, it is like a sponge, no filter. Everything we watch, see, hear gets stored in our subconscious mind.

Example: Tell a spider story to the child’s mom, if she screams, beats the spider with a newspaper. The child will look and learn. Oh! that is the way I am suppose to act when I see a spider.

At my speaking events I am sure to share with my guests, we operate from our subconscious mind , are you ready? 98% of the time. Which means what we took in from birth to six years old is how we run our lives. Our childhood programing controls our entire life. Remember the brain has no filter, we absorb everything good and bad.

After age six, the brain is in a delta state, we are already looking at things with tainted glasses from our theta brainwave. Since I already was listening to subliminal pieces, I was nudged to look up negative childhood brainwashing. I came across the link below, I firmly believe I was divinely guided to this subconscious mind work, and convinced it is my next step in my healing process.

I urge you to click on this link and just see where it takes you. I would love for you to connect with me and share your thoughts.